Ok, having posted that, I realised it had factory reset itself.
For reasons unknown it is now working as I wanted it to two weeks ago.
Why does using Pin 6 (sensor ground) instead of 2 (neutral) work better?
What does the diode on VCC/Live do?
If I want to mute the doorbell (now that I have a fancy relay), will replacing the neutral (pin2) on the Uni for ground (pin 6) on the third diagram above be sufficient to get it working?